Thursday, October 2, 2014 Tishri 8, 5775

Miriam Steinberg-Egeth

Jewish Exponent Blogger

Dear Miriam,

I have a coworker who spends all day humming and sometimes singing to herself, and looking up music videos online. It is often distracting to the point where I need to get up and work somewhere else for a while. Should I say something to her? Does it make a difference that she is singing hymns and religious songs about Jesus, and looking up performances of similar songs? Does it make a difference that she's the most senior member of our team both in terms of age and experience or that she was the one who trained me?  As the only Jew in my workplace, and because of...

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Dear Miriam,

I met a great guy online, and we recently went on our first date. His profile didn't specify his religion or profession, so I asked him about that early on in the date. Turns out, he's studying to be Christian clergy. We still had a good time, but I want to have a Jewish home, and I feel like his career path is a deal breaker. Also, don't you think he should have been upfront about this in his profile? He's willing to give "us" a shot, but I'm not sure that I am. In case it matters, I'm not planning to have kids regardless of who I end up with.

Signed,...

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Dear Miriam,

I'm a female Ph.D. student in chemistry.  The boy I like is a dance student, which is a totally different thing.  I always figured I'd meet someone in my field.  A masters in chemistry is as good as a Ph.D. for getting a job.  Is there any point in my finishing my program, or should I just fall into a life with this boy and see where things go?

Signed,
Chemistry, not chemistry

Dear Chemistry,

I think you might be getting ahead of yourself. You say you like this boy, but not that he likes you back or that you're dating....

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Some Friday nights I'm invited to multiple Shabbos dinners. Sometimes it's just a case of multiple organizations holding a potluck on the same night, sometimes it's a friend or acquaintance inviting me to their home. These invites can be two weeks in advance, or the night before. What's the latest time before Friday night that I can decide where I'll be showing up? And am I a terrible person to want to wait until the last possible moment to see where I'll be invited?

Signed,
Too Many Potlucks,


Dear Potlucks,

As I've talked about before, a lot of...

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Dear Miriam,

I've recently started dating someone who is not Jewish. For the moment, it's not super serious, making this question mostly hypothetical for me. But this is my first foray into dating non Jews (I've never been opposed to it in principle, but I've just happened to only date Jews in the past), so I am wondering when and how to bring up the topic of religion. I'm relatively observant and being religiously Jewish is a big part of my identity.

Signed,
Newly Dating

Dear Newly,

I've gotten a lot of feedback on my recent "Interfaith...

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Profile

I am extremely proud to be a part of making the Philadelphia Jewish community the best it can be.

I am a co-founder of Minyan Tikvah (a lay-led prayer group in Center City Philadelphia that meets once a month for traditional egalitarian Shabbat services), a founder of a former matchmaking service for Jewish graduate students, a children’s book reviewer, a former elementary school teacher, a pretty decent cook and a mom to two beautiful children.

I spent years as the director of Hillel of Greater Philadelphia’s Jewish Graduate Student Network before resigning to spend more time with my family. My husband, Marc, likes to say that I knew more people within a week of moving to Philadelphia than he knew after six years here.

I’m originally from the tiny town of Fredonia, NY, and sometimes I still stare at the skyscrapers and marvel at how many Jews I know.

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