Tuesday, October 21, 2014 Tishri 27, 5775

Miriam Steinberg-Egeth

Jewish Exponent Blogger

Dear Miriam,

When is the right time to become Facebook friends with the guy I'm dating? (We met online).

Signed,
Friends or "Friends"

Dear Friends,

I'm pretty sure the right time is when you don't have to ask about it. Think about it this way: If it's time to change your status to say "in a relationship with his name here," then it's time to be Facebook friends with him. If you have gone through the DTR (define the relationship) phase and have determined that you are seeing each other exclusively or that you are just going to be friends,...

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Dear Miriam,

My 14-year-old daughter suddenly is refusing to come to synagogue with the rest of the family. She had a beautiful Bat Mitzvah last year and has always been a great Hebrew school student.  Should I make her attend services with us or let her have this rebellion?

Signed,
Synagogue Strike

Dear Strike,

Having recently completed her Bat Mitzvah studies and celebration, it actually makes a lot of sense to me that your daughter may need a break from the rigors of Jewish institutional life. Beautiful or not, she’s probably relieved...

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Dear Miriam,

I'm planning my outfit for an interview. Some of my shirts have, let's say, faint stains, but they'd be covered up by a jacket during the interview. Even without the jacket, they're faint. But, even if nobody else knows, I know they're there. Should I spend money on new shirts? It really feels psychological -- and a waste of money. If I could just get over the idea that my white shirts aren't perfectly white... What do you think -- any words of advice for me to get over it?

Signed,
Shades of White

Dear Shades,

If you know with...

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Dear Miriam,

My fiancee and I have set a date for our wedding over a year from now, so we're planning to send out save the date cards. Can we ask for tentative RSVPs now to save ourselves the hassle of first- and second-round invitations later?

Signed,
Are you really saving the date?

Dear Saving,

Save the date cards provide your family and friends with information; invitations request information from them. Trying to combine the two would, I suspect, be confusing for your guests and probably wouldn't get you accurate enough information this...

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Dear Readers,

As a busy working mom involved in lots of community projects and still trying to have a social life and sleep occasionally, I'm struggling to prioritize my time and get to everything. I was trying to imagine what kind of advice someone would give me, or alternatively, what kind of advice I would give someone like me. So as I work to answer my own question, hopefully it will be helpful to you, too!

The plain fact is that it's impossible to get everything done. I probably never could do everything, but now, with a baby and the ugly face of sleep...

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Profile

I am extremely proud to be a part of making the Philadelphia Jewish community the best it can be.

I am a co-founder of Minyan Tikvah (a lay-led prayer group in Center City Philadelphia that meets once a month for traditional egalitarian Shabbat services), a founder of a former matchmaking service for Jewish graduate students, a children’s book reviewer, a former elementary school teacher, a pretty decent cook and a mom to two beautiful children.

I spent years as the director of Hillel of Greater Philadelphia’s Jewish Graduate Student Network before resigning to spend more time with my family. My husband, Marc, likes to say that I knew more people within a week of moving to Philadelphia than he knew after six years here.

I’m originally from the tiny town of Fredonia, NY, and sometimes I still stare at the skyscrapers and marvel at how many Jews I know.

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