Friday, October 24, 2014 Tishri 30, 5775

Dear Miriam,

I met a great guy online, and we recently went on our first date. His profile didn't specify his religion or profession, so I asked him about that early on in the date. Turns out, he's studying to be Christian clergy. We still had a good time, but I want to have a Jewish home, and I feel like his career path is a deal breaker. Also, don't you think he should have been upfront about this in his profile? He's willing to give "us" a shot, but I'm not sure that I am. In case it matters, I'm not planning to have kids regardless of who I end up with.

Signed,...

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Dear Miriam,

I'm a female Ph.D. student in chemistry.  The boy I like is a dance student, which is a totally different thing.  I always figured I'd meet someone in my field.  A masters in chemistry is as good as a Ph.D. for getting a job.  Is there any point in my finishing my program, or should I just fall into a life with this boy and see where things go?

Signed,
Chemistry, not chemistry

Dear Chemistry,

I think you might be getting ahead of yourself. You say you like this boy, but not that he likes you back or that you're dating....

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Some Friday nights I'm invited to multiple Shabbos dinners. Sometimes it's just a case of multiple organizations holding a potluck on the same night, sometimes it's a friend or acquaintance inviting me to their home. These invites can be two weeks in advance, or the night before. What's the latest time before Friday night that I can decide where I'll be showing up? And am I a terrible person to want to wait until the last possible moment to see where I'll be invited?

Signed,
Too Many Potlucks,


Dear Potlucks,

As I've talked about before, a lot of...

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