Tuesday, September 16, 2014 Elul 21, 5774

Dear Miriam,

I met a great guy online, and we recently went on our first date. His profile didn't specify his religion or profession, so I asked him about that early on in the date. Turns out, he's studying to be Christian clergy. We still had a good time, but I want to have a Jewish home, and I feel like his career path is a deal breaker. Also, don't you think he should have been upfront about this in his profile? He's willing to give "us" a shot, but I'm not sure that I am. In case it matters, I'm not planning to have kids regardless of who I end up with.

Signed,...

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Dear Miriam,

I'm a female Ph.D. student in chemistry.  The boy I like is a dance student, which is a totally different thing.  I always figured I'd meet someone in my field.  A masters in chemistry is as good as a Ph.D. for getting a job.  Is there any point in my finishing my program, or should I just fall into a life with this boy and see where things go?

Signed,
Chemistry, not chemistry

Dear Chemistry,

I think you might be getting ahead of yourself. You say you like this boy, but not that he likes you back or that you're dating....

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oment to see where I'll be invited?

Signed,
Too many potlucks,

Dear Potlucks,

As I've talked about before, a lot of organizations in Philly host Shabbat dinners, and sometimes they conflict with each other, but organizations typically have their schedules publicized well in advance, so you can know what's coming up and decide where you want to eat. When an organization is hosting a potluck, I think it's ok to  RSVP as late as Friday afternoon, and, if necessary, to cancel as late as Friday afternoon. There are some important exceptions, though: If the...

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