Tuesday, September 23, 2014 Elul 28, 5774

Dear Miriam,

Recently, my girlfriend of about a year started a new job, which is great, except that it makes her my boss. Things have become really awkward between us, and I don't know how to talk to her about it. What should I do?

Signed,
She's the Boss

Dear Boss,

Talk to her the way you would talk about anything in your relationship. Make sure you're not on the defensive leading into the conversation and don't start with, "We need to talk," since that never puts anyone at ease. Instead, try asking about her day, or asking about the new job...

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Dear Miriam,

My best friend is expecting a baby this fall and I want to do something to celebrate, but I've been told Jews don't have baby showers. Why not? Any ideas what we can do instead?

Signed,
To Shower or Not to Shower?

Dear Shower,

This is a great example of superstition turned into tradition turned into, I don't know, implicit cultural pressure without a lot of understanding (is there one word that means all that?). Traditionally, Jews have held the belief that to celebrate something before it happens is to invite the Evil Eye to...

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Dear Miriam,

I go to a lot of Jewish events around Philly and there are always a handful of socially awkward people there. I don't want to spend my night talking to them, but I feel bad ignoring them. What should I do?

Signed,
Avoiding the Awkward

Dear Awkward,

It's commendable that you feel bad ignoring the awkward among us. Throughout the multitude of Jewish events I've attended in Philly and elsewhere, you're not alone. I am always impressed that more often than not, the less socially adept attendees usually seem to have someone to talk...

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