Tuesday, September 2, 2014 Elul 7, 5774

Dear Miriam,

When should you say no to a second date even if the first one was good?

Second Chance?

Dear Chance,

It's rare to hear of someone looking for an excuse to turn down a second date after a good first date, but since you asked the question, I'm going to assume there's a reason you think you shouldn't be seeing this person and you're looking for some validation about following your gut. So let's start...


Dear Miriam,

I want to have a kosher kitchen, but I don't know if this is the best option for me. One major issue is that my culturally Jewish boyfriend grew up with a non-kosher kitchen and is intent on keeping all things religious at bay. He already agreed to have separate pots, pans, dishes and cutlery for meat and dairy, but things are a bit more ambiguous in terms of other utensils. Even under our current system, he mixes up the pans and cutlery all the time. Also, all the meat things are his, since I am "Jewish vegetarian" and eat only dairy, pareve and fish. We've had this...


Dear Miriam,
If you go on one or two dates and you know you are not interested, how do you let them know? Ignoring? Texting? Calling? What?!?


Rejecting Reasonably

Dear Rejecting,
Over the course of your dating lifetime, it's likely that you'll either be on the giving or receiving end of all of these unfortunate ways of ending a relationship before it's even gotten started. Really, there is no great way to tell someone you're not interested. Don't even think of saying, "It's not you, it's me." Sex and the City taught us that you better...

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