Wednesday, August 20, 2014 Av 24, 5774

Dear Miriam,

I know it's conventional wisdom that the guy should pay on the first date, but I disagree - I think it should be split 50/50. That being said, I can't find a single guy or girl who agrees with me. Speaking from a logical, feminist, 21st century perspective, aren't I right?

Signed,
Equality Now

Dear Equality,

From a logical, practical (and yes, feminist) standpoint, you're totally right. Unfortunately, like everyone else you've already asked, I'm still going to advocate that the guy pays on the first date.  Also, before I go any...

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Dear Miriam,

Last week, I went to the wedding of my boyfriend's best friend from childhood. Neither my boyfriend nor any of his friends are Jewish. During dinner, one of these friends used an anti-Semitic slur. No one, including my boyfriend, responded or called him out on it in any way. As the only Jew at the table, I didn't say anything either. I'm still angry about the whole incident, but my boyfriend thinks I just need to get over it. What should I do?

Signed,
Only Jew at the Table

Dear Only,

It's understandable that you're upset, but in...

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Dear Miriam,

I've just been invited to an outdoor engagement party where guests are instructed to dress "summer chic." I have no idea what this means for me or for my boyfriend, plus it's going to be really hot out. Help!

Signed,
Sweaty Chic

Dear Sweaty,

Though I like being outdoors, I really dislike outdoor parties that are anything other than an impromptu get together with friends (or the occasional Shabbat picnic lunch). As I said when planning my own wedding, "I have enough to worry about without also worrying about the weather every day...

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