Friday, April 18, 2014 Nisan 18, 5774

Dear Miriam,

I host a lot of Shabbat dinners for friends, and for a few recent meals, I've had guests cancel on me at the last minute. I've already made all the food, sometimes even set the table, and then I get an email that for some reason or other they can't make it. A last minute email is better than having people just not show up, which I've also had happen, but I can't imagine ever doing something this rude to a friend who's invited me for dinner. How should I respond when this happens, and is there any way to communicate to people before a meal that when they accept, I really expect them to show up?

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Dear Miriam,

I don't make friends very well. I can laugh at people's jokes, have fun with them, but I am mostly about grades, college, my career, my future, and they're all about cute boys in class, gossiping, slumber parties, water parks, roller coasters, beaches, bikinis, etc. I know I should go out there and be myself, but that never works!!!

Signed,
Outstanding Outcast

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Dear Miriam,

I like to make substitutions so that my baking is less fattening, but is it "dishonest" to bring a healthy version of a popular dish to a potluck? I've done yogurt brownies, pie with Splenda, cakes with applesauce instead of butter, etc. Will people be disappointed to bite into something and realize it's not "the real thing"?

Signed,
Substituting Splenda

Dear Substituting,...

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