Thursday, December 18, 2014 Kislev 26, 5775

Dear Miriam,

My fiancee and I have set a date for our wedding over a year from now, so we're planning to send out save the date cards. Can we ask for tentative RSVPs now to save ourselves the hassle of first- and second-round invitations later?

Signed,
Are you really saving the date?

Dear Saving,

Save the date cards provide your family and friends with information; invitations request information from them. Trying to combine the two would, I suspect, be confusing for your guests and probably wouldn't get you accurate enough information this...

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Dear Miriam,

When is the right time to become Facebook friends with the guy I'm dating? (We met online).

Signed,
Friends or "Friends"

Dear Friends,

I'm pretty sure the right time is when you don't have to ask about it. Think about it this way: If it's time to change your status to say "in a relationship with his name here," then it's time to be Facebook friends with him. If you have gone through the DTR (define the relationship) phase and have determined that you are seeing each other exclusively or that you are just going to be friends,...

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Dear Miriam,

I go to a lot of Jewish events around Philly and there are always a handful of socially awkward people there. I don't want to spend my night talking to them, but I feel bad ignoring them. What should I do?

Signed,
Avoiding the Awkward

Dear Awkward,

It's commendable that you feel bad ignoring the awkward among us. Throughout the multitude of Jewish events I've attended in Philly and elsewhere, you're not alone. I am always impressed that more often than not, the less socially adept attendees usually seem to have someone to talk...

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