Tuesday, September 2, 2014 Elul 7, 5774

Dear Miriam,

When is the right time to become Facebook friends with the guy I'm dating? (We met online).

Signed,
Friends or "Friends"

Dear Friends,

I'm pretty sure the right time is when you don't have to ask about it. Think about it this way: If it's time to change your status to say "in a relationship with his name here," then it's time to be Facebook friends with him. If you have gone through the DTR (define the relationship) phase and have determined that you are seeing each other exclusively or that you are just going to be friends,...

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Dear Miriam,

My fiancee and I have set a date for our wedding over a year from now, so we're planning to send out save the date cards. Can we ask for tentative RSVPs now to save ourselves the hassle of first- and second-round invitations later?

Signed,
Are you really saving the date?

Dear Saving,

Save the date cards provide your family and friends with information; invitations request information from them. Trying to combine the two would, I suspect, be confusing for your guests and probably wouldn't get you accurate enough information this...

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Dear Miriam,

You offer a lot of advice for young adults trying to make their way in the city, but what advice do you have for retirees who are moving to a new place later in life?

Signed,
Someone's Parent

Dear Parent,

My understanding of the generation prior to mine is that it was pretty typical for Jews to graduate from college, get married soon after and then join a synagogue and maybe also a JCC as a young married couple.  Now, there's commonly a gap of several years between graduating and starting a family, and many young adults expect...

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