Thursday, August 21, 2014 Av 25, 5774

Dear Miriam,

I just got married, and I'm debating whether or not to change my last name. While I love my hubby, I also love my family, and my last name represents a lifetime of their love and my happiness. From an ease of paperwork / benefit of future children perspective, it clearly makes sense to change my name, but I get sad when I think of saying goodbye to such a big part of me. Also, I hate hyphens. What's a girl to do?

Signed,
Mrs. Something

Dear Mrs.,

If there were an easy answer to your question, I wouldn't have a hyphenated last...

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Dear Miriam,

My 14-year-old daughter suddenly is refusing to come to synagogue with the rest of the family. She had a beautiful Bat Mitzvah last year and has always been a great Hebrew school student.  Should I make her attend services with us or let her have this rebellion?

Signed,
Synagogue Strike

Dear Strike,

Having recently completed her Bat Mitzvah studies and celebration, it actually makes a lot of sense to me that your daughter may need a break from the rigors of Jewish institutional life. Beautiful or not, she’s probably relieved...

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Dear Miriam,

My fiancee and I have set a date for our wedding over a year from now, so we're planning to send out save the date cards. Can we ask for tentative RSVPs now to save ourselves the hassle of first- and second-round invitations later?

Signed,
Are you really saving the date?

Dear Saving,

Save the date cards provide your family and friends with information; invitations request information from them. Trying to combine the two would, I suspect, be confusing for your guests and probably wouldn't get you accurate enough information this...

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