Monday, December 22, 2014 Kislev 30, 5775

Miriam Steinberg-Egeth

Jewish Exponent Blogger

Dear Miriam,

What happens if you meet an amazing girl (or whomever) but the person lives in a different city? Like New York. And you are in Philadelphia. But you want to try to make it work. Oy.

Sincerely,

Split in Two

Dear Split,

As someone who married a long-distance boyfriend, I'm perhaps uniquely qualified to answer this question. A long distance relationship can get serious quickly because when you are seeing each other, it's for concentrated amounts of time removed from other facets of your life. Or, you can have fun when you're together and not...

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Dear Miriam,

I just missed two days of classes for Rosh Hashanah. Now I’m really behind in everything, and there’s no way I can miss another day this week for Yom Kippur. I know Yom Kippur is the more important holiday. Had I realized how tough it would be to miss class, I would have gone on Rosh Hashanah so I could skip on Yom Kippur. Now I don’t really feel like I have a choice. Does it make me a bad Jew to go to school on Yom Kippur?

Signed,
Repenting in Class

Dear Repenting,

First off, I hate the term “bad Jew.” It’s a judgment people put on...

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Dear Miriam,

I have attended occasional services at various synagogues throughout the area ever since moving here about five years ago, mostly for holidays or events. I have every intention of eventually joining a synagogue because I want to send my future children to religious school. Of course, that stage in my life is at least another few years away. In the meantime, I'd still like to be part of a synagogue community on Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. '

I'm lucky that here in Philly there's a program to provide young adults in my exact position with free High Holiday tickets...

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Dear Miriam,

Recently, the web comic XKCD addressed the question, "What if everyone had only one soul mate, a random person somewhere in the world?"  XKCD's response was not optimistic -- in particular, a graph of "found soul mate" versus "alone forever" is disturbing.  Do you have a different take?  Is there any way around the pessimistic conclusion that it is unlikely that most people will actually find their soul mates?

Signed,
Beshert? Be...

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Dear Miriam,

When should you say no to a second date even if the first one was good?

Signed,
Second Chance?

Dear Chance,

It's rare to hear of someone looking for an excuse to turn down a second date after a good first date, but since you asked the question, I'm going to assume there's a reason you think you shouldn't be seeing this person and you're looking for some validation about following your gut. So let's start...

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Profile

I am extremely proud to be a part of making the Philadelphia Jewish community the best it can be.

I am a co-founder of Minyan Tikvah (a lay-led prayer group in Center City Philadelphia that meets once a month for traditional egalitarian Shabbat services), a founder of a former matchmaking service for Jewish graduate students, a children’s book reviewer, a former elementary school teacher, a pretty decent cook and a mom to two beautiful children.

I spent years as the director of Hillel of Greater Philadelphia’s Jewish Graduate Student Network before resigning to spend more time with my family. My husband, Marc, likes to say that I knew more people within a week of moving to Philadelphia than he knew after six years here.

I’m originally from the tiny town of Fredonia, NY, and sometimes I still stare at the skyscrapers and marvel at how many Jews I know.

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