Friday, November 28, 2014 Kislev 6, 5775

Miriam Steinberg-Egeth

Jewish Exponent Blogger

Dear Miriam,

I host a lot of Shabbat dinners for friends, and for a few recent meals, I've had guests cancel on me at the last minute. I've already made all the food, sometimes even set the table, and then I get an email that for some reason or other they can't make it. A last minute email is better than having people just not show up, which I've also had happen, but I can't imagine ever doing something this rude to a friend who's invited me for dinner. How should I respond when this happens, and is there any way to communicate to people before a meal that when they accept, I really expect them to show up?

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Dear Miriam,

I don't make friends very well. I can laugh at people's jokes, have fun with them, but I am mostly about grades, college, my career, my future, and they're all about cute boys in class, gossiping, slumber parties, water parks, roller coasters, beaches, bikinis, etc. I know I should go out there and be myself, but that never works!!!

Signed,
Outstanding Outcast

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Dear Miriam - I’m a guy in my early 30s, and I’ve been seeing this great girl, also my age, for a few weeks. We haven’t had sex yet, and I’m wondering when will be the right time. 

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Dear Miriam,

What happens if you meet an amazing girl (or whomever) but the person lives in a different city? Like New York. And you are in Philadelphia. But you want to try to make it work. Oy.

Sincerely,

Split in Two

Dear Split,

As someone who married a long-distance boyfriend, I'm perhaps uniquely qualified to answer this question. A long distance relationship can get serious quickly because when you are seeing each other, it's for concentrated amounts of time removed from other facets of your life. Or, you can have fun when you're together and not...

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Dear Miriam,

I just missed two days of classes for Rosh Hashanah. Now I’m really behind in everything, and there’s no way I can miss another day this week for Yom Kippur. I know Yom Kippur is the more important holiday. Had I realized how tough it would be to miss class, I would have gone on Rosh Hashanah so I could skip on Yom Kippur. Now I don’t really feel like I have a choice. Does it make me a bad Jew to go to school on Yom Kippur?

Signed,
Repenting in Class

Dear Repenting,

First off, I hate the term “bad Jew.” It’s a judgment people put on...

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Profile

I am extremely proud to be a part of making the Philadelphia Jewish community the best it can be.

I am a co-founder of Minyan Tikvah (a lay-led prayer group in Center City Philadelphia that meets once a month for traditional egalitarian Shabbat services), a founder of a former matchmaking service for Jewish graduate students, a children’s book reviewer, a former elementary school teacher, a pretty decent cook and a mom to two beautiful children.

I spent years as the director of Hillel of Greater Philadelphia’s Jewish Graduate Student Network before resigning to spend more time with my family. My husband, Marc, likes to say that I knew more people within a week of moving to Philadelphia than he knew after six years here.

I’m originally from the tiny town of Fredonia, NY, and sometimes I still stare at the skyscrapers and marvel at how many Jews I know.

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